The interwebs

Over the last couple of days ive gained amazing amounts of clarity about a few things. First is I spend to much time wrapped up in my phone and most importantly I spend far to much time on Facebook. I often times will ignore everyone and everything and wrap my self up in some form of electronics. I do this because Im not sure how to act in a public setting. I found more often than not on my trip to California I may have missed out on few wonderful experiences because I was to wrapped up in distractions. My phone, Facebook and any other websites. I also have thought about my friendships in real life and on Facebook. Instead of actually nurturing and developing my relationships I only really have them Via Facebook the question I have posed to myself is this. How much interaction outside of Facebook have I had with over half of my Facebook friends. Better yet why am I allowing myself to live vicariously through others. Why am I not out there creating my own memories. Exploring the world?? Easy answer?? No.  I mean there have been some great things that have come from facebook. Ive reconnected with childhood friends I never thought I would see again. Ive been involved in great discussions that have lead to my learning. However, that being said. How much drama has this created for me?? Far more than I care to discuss. I am cutting my time down. Once a day tops if that. Once I check it. Im logging out. I cant keep living via the inter-webs. How is this living??

You get to be anyone on the internet. Even if it is a lie. Or a made up version of who you truly are. How much do I know about joe smo?? Not a fucking thing. I mean if I wanted to I could make myself sound rich, be a rockstar. Anything really. How is this living. Besides how do I truly get to know people that interest me If I only interact with them on the web?? Its time to reevaluate and For those I do keep on my list. We will be friends outside of the Web. My interpersonal skills have gone in the toilet with this. Im done.

Also, I am looking at many areas in my life. From the way I interact with people to how I choose to live my day to day life. I don't want to feel like I'm doing nothing. That I m stagnant. Stuck in a rut. I am focusing on short term and long term goals. Doing not just saying. I have started by going through all of my shit. I am a pack rat and really looking at all of this crap how much of it brings me joy?? Has value. Most has none. It represents a past, that I need to let go of.  The past has brought me a false sense of security. False being the operative word. So out with the old and in with the new. I know that sounds so cliche but it is what it is.

I had another therapy session today. The take away is I need to start living. I need to keep letting people who are good for me into my life. I also need to be kind to myself in this healing process. Start taking the bull by the horns in a gentle manner. I know that all of this work will pay off in the end but this process is painful. One where I often want to quit. In fact I did for awhile. After a time away and recent events that transpired.

 I  realize that I  need to keep plugging along. Recognizing my progress of where I was and where I am. Being gentle to others.Most importantly I need to be gentle with myself. Not be the parental figure of you did this and this wrong and if you ever attitude. Instead I will start asking more questions and take on an observer stance.  Not a scolding parent and not a sulking little child who runs away and hides. This behavior needs to stop and go away.

Next week Im starting to go to a group primarily focused on women with eating disorders.  A group where I get to start being real about the whys and the triggers that lead to the abuse of food For me. I am hoping and wanting this to be a positive experience for me. One where I gain understanding. Where I can grow, Learn and draw on the strength of others.  The overeating is a symptom of something much bigger and greater. Im not sure how to get better with this?? Damnit though I am going to try. Its time for change. If I keep living like this it will only get worse.

I know that some of this is very personal. I hope and know that many of us struggle with a ton of things in our life's. I'm hoping that if by blogging about this , I can inspire one person other than Myself .I have succeeded. Its seems at least for me the more I read the more I learn. I Know that there has to be at least one other person that feels this same way.

I love you all. I am starting to love me. Thank you for taking time to read about my journey. Til next time xoxo.
Chris